While Behavioral Techniques such as setting timers and giving yourself deadlines can be fantastic for achieving goals. Eliminating impeding and indecisive language will increase productivity tenfold. #Productivity #GoalSetting
The Pomodoro method is excellent for behavioral motivation to set a timer and take breaks to increase the flow of energy and focus. It is essentially an external intervention. Yet, it does not get to the intrinsic part of a person so that ADHD symptoms will be remedied long-term. I not only treated ADHD, but I suffered from the symptoms until I realized it is Impeding Language that truly thwarts our ability to follow through and become more productive. I created a better way for people to love finishing projects and loving their lives in a new way.
Changing how you communicate will help increase your productivity, timeliness, and creative life processes and allow you to live an organized life. The number-one cause of perpetual disorganization is using what I call “impeding language.” Impeding language: How you talk to yourself and others directly impacts your behavior, motivation and follow through. Impeding language also leads to overcollecting, overaccumulation, and cluttering in the most insidious and derailing ways.
“I need” is the most overused phrase in our language. We say “I need” all the time: I need to get out of here; I need to pick up the kids; I need to call that company; I need to do something with my hair; I need to exercise; I need new clothes; I need a new car. I need, I need, I need! But the truth is, “I need” is a white lie. Saying you need something that is not an essential need instead of stating you “want” something or that you will “do” something is a way to avoid recognizing or admitting that you are making a choice. It will disrupt your ability to remain organized and productive. We are, in essence, “needling” ourselves to death. Needling yourself to do things instead of willing yourself is the barrier to following through. Needling is the cause of tension, worry, and nervousness.
We only have seven essential needs: air, food, water, shelter, sleep, elimination, and sunlight. These are the seven things that keep us alive. Nothing else is a “need.” This disorganized thinking leads to chaotic behavior and usually neglect of one’s actual needs.
Listen to others and track how often you hear people say, “I have to,” or “I gotta.” How frequently do these phrases pertain to the necessities that keep us alive?
You can view this change to your language as semantics, but it’s not. When you deliberately make conscious choices — by saying “I want” or “I will” rather than “I need” — you emphasize the positive reasons, values, and motivations that are important to you. This helps keep you from feeling trapped by obligations.
For example, when you consider working and finishing projects with a “need” consciousness you will always feel pressured. When a company has a “need” protocol and push, the pressure is felt top-down. When a “will and won’t” attitude exists it gives back the power to each individual. It’s freeing to not be driven down by meddling needy desperate for action boss.
After “I need,” the most common phrase I hear when helping people become perpetually organized is “I’ll try.” I’ll try to get to work on time, finish by the weekend, and curb my spending. Indecisive language is part of impeding language.
Indecisive language keeps you chained to unfulfillment. It makes decision-making impossible. Using decisive language helps you fulfill your dreams and goals. Indecisive language signals indecision, doubt, resistance, reluctance, or fear. It expresses a lack of commitment or self-confidence.
When you hear yourself saying, “I’ll try,” recognize that you are sidestepping the things you want in your life. Know that you will either accomplish your goals or not. Don’t “try” to succeed; be decisive. Saying, “I’ll try,” indicates nonaction; it means nothing to the subconscious process.
When people don’t finish something they set out to do, they often say, “I tried,” to excuse themselves or escape blame. For instance, when someone misses an appointment, they say, “I tried to get to my doctor’s office today,” as if attempting is what’s important. It is a way to blame circumstances instead of taking responsibility for not following through on goals you set for yourself: “I tried, but there was traffic,” “I lost track of time,” or “I took an important phone call.” None of those reasons add up. Not when it comes to following through and accomplishing tasks. The appointment was missed, and the person did not see the doctor. That someone “tried” does not change the outcome.
Again, this is more than semantics; impeding language will jeopardize going forward toward a positive outcome. In addition to “I’ll try,” listen for these other indecisive phrases: If, but, could, should, might, maybe, probably, possibly, perhaps, someday, sometime, somehow, we’ll see, and I’ll think about it. Finally, the two most popular indecisive words I hear constantly are “kinda” and “sorta.” To increase their impact, these are often combined as “kinda sorta” or “sorta kinda.” Imagine two new phrases that mean nothing are now cluttering how we speak. I recently talked to a woman who used “kinda” and “sorta” in every sentence, saying, “I kinda sorta need to get organized.” How much more indecisive could she be?
Distinguishing wants from needs, using decisive language, eliminating indecisive language, and putting adjectives or feeling words and the word “will” back into your language will ensure ease with your personal and business life projects. Changing your language will also improve your productivity and help you fulfill your goals before, during, and after any projects you want to finish in a timely manner.
Setting clear goals and committing to them will improve organizational success. One thing that helps is specifying a time frame. Say, “I will get organized within the month.” Eliminating impeding language will help you become more confident about your dreams and goals.
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